Me Being Brutally Honest With Me About You

Good morning (to those on my time zone at least). I am happy to announce that 5 teachers have so far signed on for my 30 Day Challenge and are already posting in our FaceBook group. If you don't know what I am talking about, go and read yesterday's blog at this link. I got some interesting feedback about my offer from a teacher with a long background in sales. After wondering if I had a terminal disease (why was I so desperate for her to join this month?) she pointed out some relevant stuff – basically how I fail as a sales person for her. The thrust of her comment was that she doesn't get that I am genuinely interested in her. My blog yesterday – which was a sales letter for my 30 Day Challenge – came across to her as, well – not genuine. Her best comment – which I totally agree with – was this:

The ice is very thin between "being totally interested in the student" and "being as if totally interested in the person, [but being] interested in the student because I know it works".

It's so true. Honestly speaking, I know that I am more on the latter than the former. I am doing this selfishly – not for you, but for me. I think that's pretty much how most humans operate, unless you're the Dalai Lama or Byron Katie. I'd love if I was really interested in you, but the truth is I am more interested in me. There. I said it. And it's true. I did say as much in my blog yesterday "I will motivate you, and you will motivate me." The truth is – I want to be motivated. That's why I am doing this. Not for you, but for me. However, for an intelligent thinking person, I don't see that as a valid reason not to invest. When I invest in one of Dan Kennedy's products, I know full well he's made it simply because he wants to make money out of me. I am not under any illusions that he is this altruistic, caring person who does it all for the love. I decide selfishly - what's in it for me? I am not sure why my friendly critic is so caught up about me. Surely the real question is: what's in it for her? She told me she has printed all my posts and read them three times! So it's a little weird that she's worrying about me, but of course she has every right to think however she wants to think. However, this is how I think: it's a real shame that her line of thinking will lead her to lose out on this experience. Getting together with a whole bunch of Alexander Technique teachers all focused on building their practises - where's the downside of that? Now there's a real irony here – in fact I do honestly want to help you, because I know that's the only way to help me. Selfish wisdom is a good name for that strategy. I understand that helping you is how I am selfishly helping me. This is how it works; this is life. And those of you who actually implement what I suggest, and see the fruits of that, bring me joy. Not because I am celebrating you, but because I am celebrating me. It is all selfish. Anyone who thinks otherwise, must also believe they are at a Dalai Lama level. I try not to get that delusional about who I am. She made a final great point: my disparaging remarks about people who did not take up my offer was not a smart way for them to feel kindly towards me in the future. Again, very relevant. The customer is always right, and the customer is the key. (She, by the way, is not a customer) Abraham Lincoln said:

You can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not please all of the people all of the time.

This is so true, and it is true in sales too. First and foremost – be your Self. If I was to pretend that I was not annoyed by the person who called me underhanded, or by so many people being unwilling to pay after three months of feeding off my free posts, I think that would be dishonest of me. However, in being annoyed I know I am not taking full responsibility, and that makes me less of a person that I could be. So I really appreciate that feedback and accept it fully. I have no right to be upset with any of you – I am the creator of my situation, not you. My mistake was making it free if what I wanted all along was income. That was my mistake – it was not your mistake. So for people upset by my rude remarks, I am sorry about that. I will stop doing that! The other way to look at this – which again my friend from the Sales Department advised – was to joyfully acknowledge that I have such a wide range of Alexander Technique teachers from all over the world willing to come and read my blog. That is really something! I am proud that I have managed to convince you all that I have a message worth listening to, and happy that you all take the time to listen. (notice the order is still me, then you) So I do rejoice in you all being here. I do admit I am human and get pissed off with some of you sometimes. I am willing to reveal that I am entirely selfish in wanting you to join this month. And finally I still (desperately?) implore you to consider my 30 Day Challenge as a way that you can use me to benefit you. It will cost you $48, you get an extra month for free, and you can sign up at this link below… http://atsuccess.com/membership-plans And if you are not convinced, then go ahead and click the "My 30 Day Challenge To You" button below to read my "Jeremy's-going-to-die-soon-so-you-better-not-miss-this-chance" blog that failed to convince one person to pay the $48 and join my (selfish) experiment.