Clarity is Power, Confusion is Lonely

Once upon a time - when I returned to Japan - I expected loneliness.

I didn't plan it, it just happened. I'd be in the shower and have this feeling. What's that?! Then images would appear of my daughters back in Australia, my family life there… SAD.

Like clockwork, every trip.

What to do?

Well, your first question in situations like this: who is doing it?

It reminds me of the age old nature-or-nurture debate. What determines your behaviour? Genetics or environment?

In this case: are you creating your world (genetics); or is the world inflicting itself upon you (environment)?

Niels Bohr helped sort while in Norway on a snowing trip. His Principle of Complementarity applied within the realm of physics. In everyday life I would restate it this way:

Two opposing views can both be right.

However, neither are true.

In physics the obvious example is that light can be particles - RIGHT - and light can be waves - RIGHT - and neither is true.

Then you might ask - well, what does truth mean?

And for that, I bow to Shakyamuni - again - by asserting there are two kinds of truth: absolute (unknowable) and relative (knowable). The "relative" version is the realm of spin doctors. Lots of choices, lots of fairytales to choose from.

The absolute variety is, well, unknowable. But's that's a book, not a Daily.

SO.

Back to naked me crying in the shower. The Chancer's poor, wretched life away from his family…

Is it my imagination?

Or is it my real life situation?

Both are right, neither is true. Which means - how do I want to live?

Up to me. I can interpret my situation as forced upon me by circumstances - sad, sad, sad - or I can feel my situation through an alternative perceptual filter.

Simple, but not easy.

It's a bit like - is this an uncomfortable chair? Or I am making my Self uncomfortable in this chair? Both are right, neither are true - so what's it to be?

Your life is FULL of situations like this. A less polite way of framing the question is this:

Do you want to be a victim (of the chair, of your life circumstances)?

Or do you want to be in charge (of your reaction to the chair, of your life circumstances)?

Clarity.

Clarity is power and I don't get sad anymore because I interpret my "life situation" differently. And that's not mind-over-emotion, that's emotion-over-mind.

It's over. No more "sad" when I return to Japan.

All in the mind. All yours. No victims.

The plan is laid out clearly in the Compass steps within ThinkingBody Online Module Two.

***

I am closing the special offer in three days. Yes, not the end of the month, Wednesday.

Use this Coupon Code: 20OFFTILLNOV30

https://bodychance.mykajabi.com/offers/zW83SsoL

Get my blog delivered by email every day by signing up here:

https://bodychance.leadpages.co/ats-daily-optin/