Shut-up and Listen Technique      

Teresa Taylor, a trainee with Greg Holdaway in Sydney, and faithful reader of my Daily, piped up with a nice quote from FM…

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I found the quote I was thinking of - it's in Goddard Binkley's The Expanding Self - diary of his lessons with Alexander, page 65, where he quotes Alexander talking about having faith in the principles and faith in him (FM) and not hesitating:

"We can never expect to do a thing if we begin by doubting that we can do it, isn't that so?"

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I had a similar epiphany while working with one of my Biz mates on a process described in Nancy Cline’s book How to Think. Of course, it’s insulting to her, but the basic premise of the book is to shut up and listen.

Yes, listen. Marj put the same concept in another way:

“If you let them talk long enough, they always give themselves away.”

Alleluia to that!!!

I followed Marj’s advice by starting to breathe through the nose while chatting with people. I turned into a listener, because – in Australia at least – even a 1 second pause was long enough for another believer to jump in with their latest.

I learned a lot about people during my ‘breath-through-the-nose’ period, and you can see me practicing in the BodyThinking Online videos.

Man is it hard – have you ever done it? It’s totally psychological, almost zero physical.

So, there I am with Scotty, and he’s being the dutiful listener, and I am the Kline subject: experimenting with her method by running off my mouth with no risk of interruption, and a captive audience in Scotty.

Did Xmas just come early?

It was October, 2015 and I was still hopelessly efforting to get my B2B concept off the ground. Scotty threw in one of the questions Kline recommends: challenge the premise. In this case, my “premise” was “doubt it will work” (back to FM’s quote).

Scotty asked: “If you believed it would succeed, how would that change what you are doing now?”

A new world opened within me: a vista of possibility and excitement. OMG. If I believed it would work, why then…. I made lists, I got excited, I became a believer. I think from that time I can track the line to the growing success of this project today.

And all of this – believe it or not – is part of how change works, part of the process I illuminate and illustrate in my ThinkingBody Online service. It’s the beginning of figuring out a new way to work with people.

If you’re stuck in the rehab context of Alexander's discovery, and want to move into the human potentiality market, then ThinkingBody Online gives you a road map to get there. Ways to work with consciousness, with listening, with possibility.

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