Taking the Nuclear Option

I missed yesterday's Daily because I lost the urge.

I lost the urge because suddenly - without warning - my partner left me. When you want to express your anger, you always have the nuclear option. A curt little text on LINE - while being blocked on Facebook - that ends with a polite "thank you for all" discordant note.

It's the third time, and my last.

I have been meditating a lot recently on neediness. It comes up in ATSuccess coaching sessions - worrying that no-one will come to your group. Having no other options. A need arises when you believe you must have a specific thing to survive. It's thinking the world must change before you can be happy.

Needy people are no fun to be with.

Which is why love doesn't flow to need. People don't flow to workshops when need is in the air. Money doesn't flow to need.

I love my own company. I will miss the cuddles, the intimacy and a feeling of having someone extra special to care about. And I am not going to plead or chase or ask for another chance. I have done that, and I won't do it anymore.

I am not going to be that needy person.

In Buddhist terms, neediness is attachment. It's believing objects and other people are the only means to happiness. It's a lie - a very common one - but nonetheless false.

If you want a partner, be happy to stay single.

If you want to succeed, be ready to fail.

If you want to be rich, be ok without it.

This is how you build a career that sustains you, attracts others and gets all the prizes you want. You still must make smart decisions: pick the right audience, make a brilliant offer, and have something worth consuming.

But at the core - can you eliminate your neediness?

It's work, and the end of a relationship is a gift if you let it be that. Any failure offers you an opportunity. It's a chance to embrace your Self, to be in love with you, to see that all you ever needed was always with you all the time.

This is the atmosphere of success and I want to get on with it.

It might seem harsh. Actually it is very kind and honest. When you can manage your Self, you can manage your business.

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